The Unexpected
(Surprise the status quo)
Change the pace. Do something unexpected. This isn't about 'jumping out of a plane' unexpected. Don't overthink it. Keep it simple. Modify routine. The idea is that we get to see and be seen with fresh eyes.
Objective:
Explore and get comfortable with our selves. Love all the pieces and parts of our selves. Let go of shame with regard to physical appearance and perfection.
Setting the scene:
Just another day. Winding down. Disrupt the normal. Lean into getting physical. We all do these normal every day things. And we think they aren’t things that are sexy. Yet, they can be. Allow your mind to open up to being beautiful and wanted and proceed accordingly.
Encourages:
Getting comfortable in our own skin.
Min Time Allotment: 15 min
The Instructions
Just another bedtime
Getting ready for bed
Undress first
Walk around naked
Feel the air on your flesh
Naked, natural beauty
Nipples erect in the chill
In the excitement of possibilities
Exposed
Being watched
Brush your teeth
Comb your hair
Nonchalant talking
‘How ‘bout them Dodgers’
They are sneaking peeks
Of your naked sexiness
Excitement grows
Anticipation
Go to their side of the bed
Make eye contact
Slide into bed
Slip into a body to body hug
Safe, warm
Let the touching begin
Variations
Any routine doldrums can be channelled into opening your creativity. Morning routines would be especially fun to change up and bring in some skin. Set the tone for the day and leave healthy anticipation for later. Even dinner routines when it's just the two of ya. Wear only an apron. The goal is to disrupt our set routines of mindlessness with the intention of being seen and touched in our creative physical form.
Do it when you are home alone as well. Just getting yourself used to your body. Maybe explore touching yourself so you can really get to know the curves and pleasant spots. Definitely work up to touching your vulva and clit and learning how to organism. This is very empowering when it comes to having better experiences with partners.
Platonic:
Even friend and family relationships get into settled routines. Explore how you can shake up ‘the way we’ve always done that" and bring a different experience to it. Maybe play a card game instead of watching a movie. Maybe go to a museum instead of out to dinner. Maybe tell Mom to sit at the table while you prepare dinner or fold the clothes… tell her to chill and enjoy letting someone else take care of her.
Insight
Practice makes perfect. This is for you if you’ve lived your life with rules on how and when physicality happens. Until we lay down old patterns, we aren’t always open to new ideas. So this is a way to practice letting go of old ways of thinking and doing. This is also to get us in touch with our physical body today where it is. We may not love our shape or think that there’s no way anyone will find us attractive. We need to change that narrative. We change by stepping out of our comfort zones and into discovery.
If you find this super easy and are very comfortable with your body already, then leave some clothes on - try some different outfits. Really work to help your partner find some enjoyment with their body too.
Remember there is no failing at this. Baby steps are allowed. Continue to explore when you are alone and eventually you will be willing to be fully seen.
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