Surrender
(ride the emotional wave)
Life isn't an island. We are here together, all of us chickens. Our nervous systems needs downtime, real pure safe space to breathe. Its only after we reconnect with our breathe, body and heart that we can see through to what really matters and this helps us show up in the world renewed.
Objective:
Allow yourself to be taken care of. Be fully supported. Don't have your shit together. Be a big ball of messiness. Feel the weight of life and share that weight so you know you aren’t carrying it alone.
Setting the scene:
You are at your wit's end. Work, kids, school, aging parents, sick family members… whichever it is, or all the many combinations of things. You are raw and just one more thing will set you off. Let this be that one more thing to start you on the unravelling of the wits and offer a respite and recharge.
Encourages:
Being vulnerable. Realizing you can’t do it all and that you aren’t alone.
Min Time Allotment: as much as you need.
The Instructions
Scary
Difficult
Alone
Tired
Acknowledge the stress of it all
Touch the physical tension in your body
Realize how closed off
Trying to be strong
Slide into a full-body hug
Put your head on their chest
Safe in their arms
Nest
Feel their warmth
Hear their heart as you breathe
Feel your body releasing its control
Letting go is healing
Surrender
Shutter
Tears
Shakes
Variations
Daily affirmations in the form of a pause and surrender hug with your partner is a way to have that knowledge that you are not alone as you navigate this life experience. Letting your partner help you by surrendering your burdens shares your load and helps the partner to feel connected in your journey.
As this ritual becomes more and more comfortable allow any words to flow as well as any narrative that needs to be expressed. Any bits of the raw emotions, anger, despair, tiredness. Emotions are energy in motion and that energy is a wave – surrender lets the wave pass through and not stagnate.
Plantonic: Do the exact same thing. Give and receive surrender. Show grace to each other.
Insight
The receiver is the person that is surrendering. To get to surrender, the partner that is providing this safe space needs to channel nurturing strength and hold and cuddle and be the rock that the emotional wave can crash against and dissipate. This is a healing touch and is fully present in the moment and not trying to direct or assist. Just witness the surrender and be a safe space.
The receiver needs to initiate this activity.
If your partner isn’t able to be the giver then that is just a sign that your relationship might still be too new. However, if a partner tries too hard to be the giver of surrender then it could be a sign of a hero archetype that just likes to be needed. Find the balance. True healing takes place when burdens are not celebrated but released. Surrender is a place we all pass through on our way to being free to handle life experiences and to heal the tiny broken pieces of our hearts.
As the giver, be mindful not to take on the burdens of the receiver. The giver is a neutral party. Do not try to save or fix the situation. Bear witness.
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